Spending time by yourself
Andrew Parker - December 2, 2022


By Greta Zwaan

I sought for joy in peace, and rest to ease my weary mind,
Stressed out by such a heavy load, rest I just had to find.
My endurance could hold no more, my limits had been met,
I needed time to stand aside, sweet time to just forget.

But where to find the road to peace, an obscure trait to me;
My hectic lifestyle can't comprehend a way to set time free.
I've always rushed from A to B with no side glace allowed,
I had my life so well controlled; in truth, I felt quite proud.

No one could tell me what to do, I was a self-made man;
My schedules were controlled by me, I had a thorough plan.
'Twas good when all things went my way and no one interfered;
I had no one to answer to, my way was always cleared.

But years of this brought me no joy, though fortunes I'd amassed;
It seemed that all the things I owned would oh, so soon be past.
I had no friends that knew my plight, I kept myself at bay,
They all had troubles of their own; besides, what could they say?

They envied me with all my wealth, they never saw my pain,
I had life altogether, what more was there to gain?
But loneliness is terrible and emptiness is sad,
There seems no purpose for each day, no reason to be glad.

So now I wait; why? I don't know, but life for me must change.
There must be more than fortunes, a way to rearrange.
There has to be a purpose, and someone surely knows,
Why life is complicated, and days so full of woes.

Perhaps you have the answer, perhaps you know the route,
Perhaps you've traveled here before; if so, please help me out.
If need be, I'll be patient, I'll even take advice;
I'll gladly make the changes, no matter what the price.

I don't need independence, I've had my round of that;
I long for understanding, to know just where I'm at.
Someday I hope to thank you because you saw my need,
Perhaps with greater meaning, with purpose, not with greed.

I don't know how I got here, what lies ahead of me,
I'm grateful there'll be changes, I'm grateful to be free.

Being alone can be comforting, peaceful, relieving, and an introvert’s idea of heaven; however, for reasons, we prefer to be with someone, often for the sake of appearances because being alone is often confused with being lonely or being upset. For some, being alone is a much-needed break after constantly being surrounded by people for the entire day. For others, being alone allows them to think and rearrange their thoughts and refine their opinions.

The idea that we can only have fun in loud settings in large crowds has become redundant and does not hold true for many. Cherished memories and life experiences can be had alone. Not going somewhere you have been looking forward to visiting, or doing something you want to do just because you cannot find someone to accompany you is not a strong enough reason to leave a sense of longing within yourself and your desires and wishes unfulfilled. You can do almost anything alone, however, just for starters, here is a list of things to do when you are alone.

Visit a museum – whether it be a history museum or an art museum, museums are places that emit a certain aura and demand a certain respect hence, loud noises and even large crowds are not appreciated. Museums are places for realization and reflection hence, best appreciated alone, without any distractions.

Spend time at swings – as long as you do not need someone to push you on a swing, there is nothing better than being alone when you are on a swing, going back and forth, your wind blowing in your hair along with your worries for a while. Nature is best enjoyed within yourself. Read a book – in fact, when you are deeply immersed in a good book with a solid plot, the presence of other people is a source of major annoyance. Allow yourself to be transported in the loves and lives of characters and you will never feel lonely.