Etiquette in Style
Laura Lee - July 20, 2023


By Shel Silverstein

My dad gave me one dollar bill
'Cause I'm his smartest son,
And I swapped it for two shiny quarters
'Cause two is more than one!

And then I took the quarters
And traded them to Lou
For three dimes -- I guess he didn't know
That three is more than two!

Just then, along came old blind Bates
And just 'cause he can't see
He gave me four nickels for my three dimes,
And four is more than three!

And then I took the nickels to Hiram Coombs
Down at the seed-feed store,
And the fool gave me five pennies for them,
And five is more than four!

And then I went and showed my dad,
And he got red in the cheeks
And closed his eyes and shook his head --
Too proud of me to speak!

Many times in life, there are instances where we see an extremely attractive person who is dressed and groomed well, but is still subject to our dislike of them. We fail to instantly understand what it is we don’t like about them, but what we don’t understand is that how we express ourselves, communicate, and navigate different social spaces, has an effect on how people perceive us.

One of the many ways we shape people’s view of us is a very small, yet important, detail in our daily life. It is how we sit, stand, and walk around. There are many people who can look good in almost any outfit they wear, even if it’s a pair of sweatpants and a t-shirt, and it is simply because of how they hold their body up. Posture is a key indicator of your confidence, so it is important to keep your back straight and your chest open, regardless of what you’re dressed in.

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Also, the way we talk can be monumental in the way it changes the very way people look at us. In our daily lives, we have to communicate a large amount of information to various different groups. While we don’t have to adapt very precisely to every group, we do have to observe their way of communicating, and adjust ours accordingly. It is the small but crucial difference between someone who looks rude because they’re loud in a group of quiet people, compared to an individual who addresses the quietness of a specific social setting, and becomes quiet in response to it.

Another important aspect is our eating habits. We all find those who chew with their mouth open loudly, but it is equally unfavorable when you’re with someone who bangs and scrapes their cutlery against the plate repeatedly. If you want to keep being respected by people, it’s important to not embarrass them publicly by attracting attention constantly.